Friday, April 8, 2016

Another Week in the Life

Well, well well... contrary to appearances, I have not dropped off the face of the earth - despite my best attempts. I have been largely occupied with the continuing saga of Sam and trying to figure out Sam's future - but then, you already knew that.

In the last week, I've had an appointment with a social worker - this, after mailing her a ream of reports on Sam the week before, and yesterday, it was a meeting with a lawyer to discuss options to help protect Sam, now that he is an adult.

Where will this lead? Your guess is a good as mine. The lawyer will be talking to the social worker and then he will be calling me again. This will mean another meeting - maybe with Sam along, maybe not. But if Sam doesn't meet with him this next time, he will be eventually. He is, of course, what all of this is all about.

And Sam isn't totally in the dark on all of this. I keep him informed - as best as someone as uninformed as myself is able to do. But he knows he has options and he knows he has a voice in all of this. And he knows what the point of all of this is. Or at least we've talked about it often - and will continue to.

These are not long, burdensome conversations. These are brief, "This is what's going on" conversations. I don't tell him half of what I do. I think there would be way too much minutiae and it's really not anything he needs to be buried with. It's confusing enough for me.

As a matter of fact, when things get to the point where I feel totally lost and confused by all of this or overwhelmed by all of this, or sometimes, both, I often think about how Sam must feel this same way about so many different things.

So, Sam gets the Cliffsnotes version of things. I don't want to put too much weight on things, but I don't want him to be in the dark, either.

When I am not dealing with all of this physically, I am often dealing with it mentally. And whole I am often dealing with it mentally, I am almost always dealing with it emotionally. But then, when it comes to someone you love, how can it be any other way?

In between all of this, I did, however, manage to visit a local antique store with Helaina about a week or so ago. One of these days, maybe I'll get around to posting some photos of the highlights.

And Rachael showed up for a brief visit this week. This was last minute - for me anyway. But I'll take "brief" over "not at all" any day of the week.

Did I mention that about two weeks ago, Sam, Jake and I saw Batman Vs. Superman at the movies? Sam bought the tickets at a school fundraiser. I wasn't sure how he would do with this, but he wanted to give it a try and he did great - though admittedly closing his eyes at the beginning. This movie hasn't gotten very good reviews, but I enjoyed it a great deal. Better than most, I thought. Just darker - but I'm OK with that - as long as it's not gory.

So there you have it. All in all, a pretty good couple of weeks.

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